Why loving self is good

There was a time in life that I was a teen and I thought love as the biggest lie feed by television romantic novels and movies. Also by greedy card and chocolate. Although it all might be true but unlike happiness and sadness this feeling of love is bit tricky. Even If you go into neural science and psychology. You will learn that feel of love sometimes alters brain chemistry that just weird right.

Let's get back to the fundamental point of love and what is love?

Maybe loving your kids is love or loving ur wife husband or gf etc is love. Knowing the other person will care for you even after a big fight is love. Maybe missing your siblings after they move away from you is the realization of love. I don't know I am not an expert in love. In fact probably I should be the last person to ask about it. Since I am neither married nor have a sibling but I do understand caring. I failed at love more times then I can count and I have failed with woman probability in limit of 4 or 5. But I have realized when I look around myself as a observer when it comes to family or romantic love people make stupid choice and by this I don't mean that I don't make mistakes at-least I introspect and think about it. 

The concept of loving someone romantically introduced into our human culture and society by poets writers and then the entertainment industry has destroyed the truest meaning of love.

There is a false pretext and narrative set through these mediums like novel and movies that love means doing whatever it takes to get the man or woman you love no matter the consequence. Also, once you have each other completely then there will be roses cake and champagne bottles with lot of dancing when you get married to this so called "love of your life" well its all falsehood. The problem with lovers is that from the first day they can't accept that there would be arguments, clashes, difference in mindset lead to conflicts all this is part of life and must be accepted as harsh reality of life rather than living in a false fantasy. No matter who you love. Love requires sacrifices and understanding with pinch of honesty.

Loving your self is not a sin.

I know some of you would think that loving yourself  is bad and requires some-kind moderation. Well to everyone of them I can tell you one thing "excess of anything is bad". Someone I know uses it quite correctly. She likes to call it "SelfLove" which is actually quite a healthy practices and difficult to practice especially harsh moments in life. And please don't relate self love with narcissistic behavior. Don't think of loving you own self image  as narcissistic. If you have a god complex thats just ego problem you might have this loving your self approach is quite different.

 By loving one self what I mean giving yourself some "me time" no matter if you are married or in a relationship or too busy in life. Give yourself sometime and space. Go with a friend out and just relax over a cup of tea or go  to you quite place or enjoy the nature around you birds trees whatever you see just let it become a part of your healthy memory sink in the beauty of mother nature. And I tell my self sometimes it alright for me to love myself and give my self some me time relax to music and have a cup of cold coffee or drink some chocolate drink.

Advantage of loving yourself

• Not dependent on others for affection or approval.
• Makes you less clingy
• Builds self esteem and confidence 
• Improves creativity.
• Relaxes your mind and creates a distraction of everyday stress.
• Re-energies you soul
• Make you sleep better at night
• Keeps you mind healthy and young.

I will come back with many more such blog post soon thank you for your love and support.❤✔